relationship : 6 real tricks of love that make you fall in love again with your partner

relationship : 6 real tricks of love that make you fall in love again with your partner

it work; ask Angelina and Brad… oh wait!

While we should not laugh at another’s failed relationship, let us talk about how to improve our own. Both parties need to keep watering the plant of love on a daily basis; otherwise, that plant will wither and die. Your question is: “How does one maintain and improve the relationship every day?” I thought you would never ask.

1. TURN OFF ALL PHONES (OR AT LEAST KEEP THEM ON SILENT WITH VIBRATE MODE OFF)
Imagine the setting: You somehow managed to get a reservation at the swankiest restaurant in town. You have ordered the oysters, the chateaubriand for two, the $50 bottle of wine, everything is just right. Then your date gets a phone call and they are talking bla blah blah for a while, slurping in the oysters while they talk. When they do hang up the phone, it seemingly becomes superglued to their hand and they never look up from the thing. Before you know it, the waiter asks for dessert and they ask for one to share, all the while magically spellbound by their iPhone 7. Cinema rules should apply here, ladies and gentlemen. Not only is it rude to not pay attention to the person you are with, it is a serious mood killer.


2. GOING TO BED AT THE SAME TIME

This is intimacy in true form. Going to bed at the same time is akin to spooning or pillow talk after doing the horizontal fandango. As stated by Erin Leyba of Psychology Today, “when sleep patterns diverge, it’s harder to keep a connection”. Enough of boffins’ spiel, what are you doing that is so important that you are unable to go to bed at the same time as your partner? Maybe it is unavoidable, like the graveyard shift at work. Maybe your favourite programme is on the TV late. Maybe you are gambling your money away and you do not want your other half to find out about it. If it is avoidable, at least try to make the effort of doing this. Your partner will be grateful you did.

3. A SMALL GESTURE TELLING THEM YOU ARE THINKING OF THEM
It is hardly rocket science, but knowing that you are in the thoughts of your special someone makes you feel special. This is where you can get your creative juices going. You can WhatsApp them saying, “Morning sweetie. Bringing a ray of sunshine to your day. I love you.” You could even leave a card saying the same thing, this is very romantic. We know this is cheesier than your favourite margherita but how about a poem just because?

Roses are red

Violets are blue

You’ll never guess what?

I’m so in love with you.

4. TRYING SOMETHING NEW TOGETHER
This is a surefire way to make the bond stronger, James. No, you do not have to fight Jaws or blow up a Russian missile silo. If you have not watched Bond movies together yet, rent Quantum of Solace or Octopussy or any of the others. Another suggestion is that you could do some roleplay as 007 and Bond Girl to keep things shaken, not stirred between you two. The good thing about it is that you do not have to report back to Q later. Be careful with those gadgets!


5. WITHHOLD THAT CRITICISM
Criticising can take the edge off that loving feeling. Before the need to start singing the song by the Righteous Brothers, just think for a moment before uttering the words that cannot be taken back. Even if it is minor criticism, instead suggest another way of doing whatever it is your partner is doing. This can really help the relationship by your partner doing better in your eyes and you are now satisfied with the way they do it. Sing it with us, “Bring back that lovin’ feelin’, Whoa, that lovin’ feelin’.” Yeah!
6. A LITTLE GRATITUDE GOES A LONG WAY
“Thank you” are two key words that can boost your romantic situation. Let us try something here, “At Power of Positivity, we thank you for reading this article.” What we are thanking you for is the time you are taking out of your life to read the article, time that you will not get back. In a relationship, it is the same principal. If your beau/belle is doing something for you and they do not thank you for it. How would you feel? Or vice versa, how do you think they would feel?